The Tao of Dating has ratings and 33 reviews. Leslie said: I dislike self-help books. I find them indulgent and a bit ridiculous. I also feel like I. Attention Smart, Attractive, Successful Single Women: Here's The Guide Written Let The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman's Guide to Being Absolutely. "The Tao Of Dating offers smart, successful women the ultimate dating road map. For those seeking a lifetime of deep love and fulfillment, this.
I've found the following five principles pretty handy. They form the backbone of the Tao of Dating book for women and menand here they are: Do you see scarcity, lack and limitation around you, or wealth, possibility and abundance?
The mindset you choose bears directly upon the success of your love life and your success in general. Big-heartedness and self-sufficiency, on the other hand, work much better. Even the Bible has something to say about that: So even if you don't have a companion, act as if there is an unlimited supply of what you want available to you already.
And you know what? Because even if only one thousandth of one percent of the 6. That's enough dates to tide you over for a whole month.
This one has three words in it. Short-sighted decisions - e. To be able to take care of anyone else, you need to take care of you first. Simple, totally non-negotiable, and often neglected. If a relationship is making you miserable and unhappy - like that of my friend Holly who was being put down and punched up by the man she was supporting financially - consider ending it. Because fulfillment is a feeling, not a person. So if you're not getting fulfilling feelings in a relationship, chances are you're with the wrong person.
The Be-Do-Have paradigm vs. Many people think like this: The proper sequence is: From the right beliefs will flow the right actions, or te the middle word from Tao Te Ching naturally and effortlessly, from which will come right results. We see this in nature: This is especially true of human relations.
Without polarity, relationships fall flat, whether in heterosexual or same-sex couples: As a man, if you take on too much yin, you risk turning into an indecisive wimp, which is not necessarily appealing to women.
Having an open heart is great; just remember to keep your spine also. As a woman, if you take on too much yang, you risk turning into a facsimile of a guy, which may be admirable but not necessarily attractive. Strength is great, but remember that femininity is what draws in the masculine. Is it possible that the solution to these challenges was not to try to fix each individual symptom, but to approach the world of dating with a completely new mindset -- a perspective in which these problems wouldn't even arise?
Enter the Pooh Around the same time, an interesting convergence had happened in my life. And just a few years back, I had picked up a copy of The Tao of Pooh by Benjamin Hoff which was my gateway drug to Eastern wisdom and Taoist philosophy. I carried the Tao Te Ching of Lao Tzu with me wherever I went, and read it on the subway, at bus stops, on the plane, wherever.
I even got the tape version and listened to it. I must have read it over times by now. What I loved about that book was its simplicity and brevity the whole thing comes in at under words. And how, in the space of a line or two, it offered you principles that could transform your whole life when you applied it. Here's a passage I'm particularly fond of as translated by Stephen Mitchell: If you want to shrink something, You must first allow it to expand.
If you want to get rid of something, You must first allow it to flourish. If you want to take something, You must first allow it to be given. This is called the subtle perception Of the way things are. The soft overcomes the hard. The slow overcomes the fast. Let your workings remain a mystery. Just show people the results. The first 20 times I read it, it didn't make sense.
But then it started to sink in. Before you can take something, you must allow it to be given. In other words, create the circumstances for that which you want, and then it will arise naturally, effortlessly. If you want to be loved, be the kind of person who is lovable. If you want commitment, be the kind of person who's worthy of committing to. And I loved the spirit of the Tao Te Ching.
Observe the world as it is. Notice the greater wave that's flowing through things, and flow with it. Don't try to swim against the current.
Swim with the current, and the universe will aid you along you path. It all dovetailed nicely with the yoga practice I had just taken up. You can think independently of circumstance. Pain happens but suffering is optional. The world is perfect as it is. There was so much complementarity between Buddhist, Hindu, yogic and Taoist philosophy.
The science behind dating success At the same time, I am trained as a scientist. Having written a neuroscience thesis at Harvard and getting an MD from UC San Diego means I'm not entirely comfortable floating in feel-good generalities that are difficult to apply, as beautiful and soothing as the Eastern teachings are. I want my readers to have something solid to hold on to as well.
Something you can apply in the real world. So to create tools that elevate you while being totally practical and down-to-earth, I decided to combine the two big influences in my life, namely, Eastern wisdom and Western science.
The Tao of Dating
The result is The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman's Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible is to give you timeless spiritual principles that you can use to empower you and make your life more fulfilling, in the dating realm and beyond. Add to that the scientific principles of why people behave the way they do, and it all starts to make a lot of sense.
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Both ways of thinking are near and dear to my heart. After three science degrees from Harvard, UCSD and Cambridge, three dissertations, and being a chemistry teaching assistant for three years, I'm soaked in this science stuff like a fish is soaked in seawater. At the same time, nothing has influenced my life quite as much as the principles of Taoist philosophy and Eastern wisdom. I'm absolutely convinced that they help you become a happier, calmer, more empowered and more fulfilled human being.
They've already worked for me and thousands of my male readers. So if you're more scientifically-inclined, I want The Tao of Dating to be your introduction to useful spiritual principles. If you're more spiritually-inclined, I want the book to be a gentle primer on the science of why people do the things they do.
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You'll be surprised sometimes at how science and spirituality arrive at the same principles. Valid paths to truth often end up converging.
Inside the dating male's mind from a real insider In addition, I wrote a dating book for men three years ago. It was targeted at educated, affluent, spiritual men with a desire to be the best they could be in life. Since then, I have been privy to their needs, wants, challenges, frustrations, successes and aspirations when it comes to dating women. I have heard from thousands of them in letters, seminars, polls, consultations, and conversations. And by now I have a pretty good idea of what makes them sing hint: And as a bona-fide guy with over three decades of training under my belt, I've been on some dates myself and have some observations to offer.
The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman's Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible by Ali Binazir
A course for personal transformation As a certified clinical hypnotherapist and personal change specialist, I've been through a lot of self-help workshops, seminars and books. Collectively, they have cost me tens of thousands of dollars. I've noticed that the products that work are the ones that involve the reader in the learning process. It's not just enough to give you useful information -- any book can do that.
What's important is to get you to feel the principles in your bones. Because that's when you're compelled to change your behavior and get some real change. And that's why I've got exercises in the text ranging from the simple to the utterly radical, to help you transform your life. Along with audios to guide you along those exercises.
And regular emails to check in on you and make sure you're reading and doing the exercises. Not that I don't trust you'd do them on your own. No no no -- far from it.
I trust you completely. I just don't trust myself. I've bought so many courses and books that are now doubling as expensive dust-gatherers that I know that I could use a little nudge to get done more of the things I want to do anyway.
A little catalyst goes a long way, I say. I honestly believe that those exercises alone are worth the price of the course. When you do them, you will discover things about yourself, your mind, your sensuality and your world that may astonish you -- and even transform you. Here are some of the secrets to love and fulfillment in this highly informative, uplifting, empowering course Here's some of what we'll cover in the course: Fulfillment is a feeling, not a person.
How to re-orient yourself to what you truly want instead of false substitutes. Get this wrong, and nothing will work. Get this right and everything will flow effortlessly. The fastest way to liberate yourself from fear, doubt, worry and hesitation in your dating life and beyond.
This is the best, most fundamental idea in Buddhism, boiled down to its second essence. How to embrace and embody your inner goddess she's there, I swear.
I could go on for days on this one, and you should definitely check out the 'How to be a modern goddess' audio excerpt below it's free. How to tap into the infinite power of your femininity in a world drunk with masculine energy. It's easier to find stuff when you know what to look for. Figure out your core values to stop spinning your wheels and get more of what you want.
Understand this, and you'll get a lot more peace of mind and a lot less confusion. The three basic types of guys you'll encounter, reasons to date each one or notand why you should aim for a Victor when the time is right. How the Western romantic notion of the knight in shining armor is seriously getting in the way of your fulfillment. All the great things you have to offer in a relationship, and your secret gift as a woman. It's been under your nose all along; it's time you used its power to serve you.
Why good women get stuck in bad relationships, and how to snap out of it now if you're in one. Take it from a guy -- I know these archetypes well. Selecting the right guy has everything to do with your fulfillment, so let's get it right already. You may have been afraid to do this, but now you know this is what Mr Right really likes. Just like there's junk food for the body, there's junk food for the mind.
How avoiding the bad stuff helps you feel good all the time. If you don't love it, how's he going to love it? Your beliefs are the hidden software that run your life. Here are 9 beliefs designed to make your life rock. You may find 4 and 5 controversial, but they just plain work. How to carry yourself in the world for maximum empowerment. This is how you figure out where's a good spot to meet men, and where's a much better spot.
Here are some suggestions from a guy who knows what turns him into putty. What's missing when you don't connect with a man at the level of heart, mind and body. This may very well be the single most counter-intuitive item in the book -- straight-up Tao. Ask him this very carefully-formulated question from a man several times, and you'll know everything that's important to know about him.
Scout's honor, it works. A bunch of neurochemicals are responsible for making you feel the way you feel.